"Yes please". Cuando una mujer encuentra a una Poehler.

Los que no conozcan a esta diosa de la comedia, les recomiendo que lo hagan. Yo, hace un tiempillo que la descubrí, y desde entonces ha llenado mi corazón de sonrisas, empatía televisiva, ejemplos a seguir y muchas, muchas, muchísimas ganas de convertirme en la mujer en la que me quiero convertir. Su organización (Amy Poehler's smarts girls) intenta cada día hacer brillar a todas las mujeres del planeta y su Leslie Knope de Parks and recreation (la mejor serie que he visto nunca) me inspira cada día. Os lo digo, lo nuestro fue amor artístico a primera vista, al igual que con su libro autobiográfico "Yes please".

Sin más dilación, aquí os dejo uno de sus consejos. Este es para todos aquellos que, como nosotras, tengan la suerte o desgracia de poseer trabajos que no sólo son trabajos, sino también la pasión vocacional de nuestras vidas.

"Pretending to not want something can work. Really not caring if you get it takes a lifetime of practice.

I guess the Buddhists would call this idea healthy detachment. Too often we are told to visualize what we want and cut out pictures of it and repeat it like a mantra over and over again. Books and magazines tell us to create vision boards. Late-night commercials remind us that "anything is possible". Positive affirmations are written in our tea bags. I am introducing a new idea. Try to care less. Practise ambivalence. Learn to let go of wanting it. treat your career like a bad boyfriend.

Here's the thing. Your career won't take care of you. It won't call you back or introduce you to its parents. Your career will openly flirt with other people when you are around. It will forget you birthday and wreck your car. Your career will blow you off if you call it too much. It's never going to leave its wife. Your career is fucking other people and everyone knows but you.
You career will never marry you.


Career is different. Career is the stringing together of opportunities and jobs. Mix in public opinion and past regrets. Add a dash of future panic and a whole lot of financial uncertainty. Career is something that fools you into thinking you are in control and then takes pleasure in remind you that you aren't. Career is the thing that will not fill you up and never make you truly whole. Depending on your career is like eating cake for breakfast and wondering why you start crying an hour later.


I will say it again. Ambivalence is key.
You have to care about your work but not about the result. You have to care about how good you are and how good you feel, but not about how good people think you are or how good people think you look.
I realize this is extremely difficult. i am not saying I am particularly good at it . I'm like you. Or maybe you're better at this than I am.
You will never climb Career Mountain and get to the top and shout "I made it!" You will rarely feel done or complete or even successful. Most people I know struggle with that complicated soup of feeling slighted on one hand and like a total fraud on the other. Our ego is a monster that loves to sit at the head of the table, and I have learnt that my ego is just as rude and loud and hungry as everyone else's. It doesn't matter how much you get; you are left wanting more.

Ambivalence can help you team the beast. Remember, your career is a bad boyfriend. It likes it when you don't depend on it. It will reward you every time you don't act needy. It will chase you if you act like other things (passion, friendships, family, longevity) are more important to you. If your career is a bad boyfriend, it is healthy to remember you can always leave and go sleep with somebody else. "

Y también muchas otras joyas como:

"Getting older makes you somewhat invisible. This can be exciting. Now that you are better at observing a situation, you can use your sharpened skills to scan a room and navigate it before anyone even notices you are there. [...] Not getting immediate attention can mean you decide how and when you want people to look at you. Remember all those goofy comedies in the eighties where men became invisible and hung out in women's locker rooms? Remember how the men got to watch pretty girls take showers and snap each other with towels? You can do this, but in a different way. You can witness young people embarrassing themselves and get a thrill that it's not you. You can watch them throw around their "alwayses" and "nevers" and "I'm the kind off person who's" and delight in the fact that you are past that point in your life. feeling invisible means you can float. You can decide to travel without permission. Plus it's easier to steal things.


Getting older also helps you develop X-ray vision. The strange thing is that the moment people start looking at you less is when you start being able to see through people more. You get better at understanding what people mean and how it can be different from what they say. You can read people's energies better. […] Gone are the days (hopefully) when you take everything personally and internalize everyone's behaviour. You get better at knowing what you want and need. You can tell what kind of underwear people are wearing.

Lastly, because you are a superhero, you are really good at putting together a good team. You can look around the room and notice the other superheros because they are the ones noticing you. The friends you meet over forty are really juicy. They are highly emulsified and full of flavor. Now that you are starting to have a sense of who you are, you know better what kind of friend you want and need.


Now that I'm older, I'm rounder and softer, which isn't always a bad thing. I remember fewer names so I try to focus on someone's eyes instead. Sex is better and I'm better at it. I don't miss the frustration of youth, the anticipation of love and pain, the paralysis of choices still ahead. The pressure of "What are you going to do?"makes everybody feel like they haven't done anything yet. Young people can remind us to take chances and be angry and stop our patterns. Old people can remind us to laugh more and get focused and make friends with our patterns"
"I just had a tiny little voice whispering inside of me. That same voice would tell me I would meet Carol Burnett someday, I would find love, I would be okay. We all have a tiny whispery voice inside of us, but the bad ones are usually at a lower register and come through a little clearer. I don't know where the good voice came from. It was a mix of loving parents, luck and me."

"The audience laughed. Lighting struck- and I discovered three important things. I liked getting a laugh. I wanted to get one again. But I wanted to get it in a different way and be in charge of how I got it."

"Please don't drive drunk, okay? Seriously. It's so fucked up. But by all means, walk drunk. That looks hilarious. Everyone loves to watch someone act like they are trying to make it to safety during a hurricane."

"My ideal night out is a dinner party in my backyard with a group of likeminded friends whom I boss around in a gentle and loving way."